John DeWolf, Newell Petznick, and Todd Quaintance are roommates living together in Neenah, Wisconsin.
Several years ago, Todd and his parents started the ball rolling by finding a house that Todd could make into a home. John and Newell joined him as roommates and now the men live together in a home they make uniquely their own.
One of the best features of the house is the room they call the “man cave,” which includes a couple of comfy chairs pointed directly at a television. It sends the message that this is definitely a “guys” place!
The men work together to do household chores such as mowing the lawn, shoveling snow, going to the store, and shopping for their own groceries. They also invite friends and family over to visit and really like it when their visitors bring along dogs.
Having their own place makes it easier for Todd, John, and Newell to spend time in their community, building relationships and doing the things they enjoy. Since they all have unique hobbies and interests, they each like to do their own things, but sometimes decide to attend events or visit places together.
The parents of all three men say they wanted their sons to live where they are happy and could have a good life without parents being around all the time (although they joke that the guys do telephone quite often).
Todd, John, and Newell use IRIS funds to hire a house coordinator and pay for an agency to provide supportive home care services. They control when and how their services are delivered.
The house coordinator, Connie, says, “This is the first home [I have worked at] that has been run by the guys. When staff come in here and ask ‘Who is the boss?’, I say ‘The three gentlemen who own the house.’”
Todd is happy and comfortable in his home and really enjoys relaxing in his favorite chair. “Todd's life is here,” says his mother, Alice.
Both parents like to talk about how Todd's world will remain stable,